NYC 9/11 Public Portal Document
American Red Cross
in Greater New York
HELPING CHILDREN AFTER A DISASTER
If they are upset about what has happened, children may experience the same reactions as adults, plus the
following:
Bedwetting, thumb sucking or Clinging/fear of being left alone
other earlier-age behaviors Fear of the dark
Withdrawal and isolation Fighting/irritability
Lack of cooperation, stubbornness Passivity and helplessness
Noticeable sadness or anxiety Guilt; tendency to self-punish
May not want to attend school Change in school performance
Reckless/repetitive play Increase in fantasy play
You should decide what is best for your children, but consider using these suggestions as guidelines to
help children cope during this time:
- First help yourself; then you are ready to help children cope
- Be honest and open about the disaster; tell them what is real
- Talk about the event, encourage family members to describe what they: saw, heard, thought, smelled,
felt, etc. during the disaster.
- If they do not want to talk, encourage them to draw pictures and then discuss them
- Tell them what you will do to make re-occurrence less likely
- Let children know that everyone, including you, gets frightened or anxious and suggest what they can
do to handle these feelings
- Monitor children's post-disaster media viewing; schedule other activities instead
- Spend extra time with children at bedtime, if they have trouble going to sleep
- Allow children to grieve about their lost treasures (e.g., toys, blanket, pet, whatever)
- Include children in discussions about preparing and planning for the future
- Give as much comfort and as many hugs as needed
- Older children may benefit from involvement in recovery efforts in the community
- Teenagers find security in their friends and may need to spend time with them
- Alert your child's teacher to help with any problems at school
If you would like more help to manage your child's stress, you may want to speak to a mental health
professional at your child's school, your local Red Cross chapter or the Department of Mental Health; or
contact your insurance carrier for referrals. For emergencies, go to the nearest Emergency Room.
The toll-free number for the American Red Cross in Greater New York is 1-877-RED CROSS.
NYC-WTC 000137352
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